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Street Fighter Lingerie? That’s A Start!

I’ve been saying for a little while now that I want gaming and anime-related clothing to be more of a normal thing you see in your average clothing stores. Whether it’s graphic tees, dresses, hats, swimwear and yes of course underwear, I want to see all of these things become something you see not just in niche stores like Hot Topic and on various niche websites, I want to see more well-known clothing stores to carry their own lines of nerdy-themed stuff.

And while this isn’t quite what I’m looking for, anything that adds onto the amount of choices consumers have to buy nerd gear, I’m all for it. Though granted this one’s quite…interesting?

Street Fighter underwear, folks! Specifically, Chun-Li and Cammy underwear. Now while the Chun-Li set definitely matches, the Cammy one’s a bit odd, don’t you think? I mean…it’s not a one-piece. Why isn’t it a one-piece?! I mean to be fair, if I was going to make anything Cammy-related, it probably makes more sense to make a one-piece swimsuit rather than underwear, but hey what do I care? At the end of the day, it’s more stuff that in this case, girls can buy and wear.

The sets are being produced and sold by a Japanese company called SuperGroupies (perfect name!) and they produce a lot of anime and gaming-related gear. This is just another round of stuff in their underwear collection, but this is arguably the first one to really take a stab at a major franchise (not that I can tell with any of the others sets they sell. I also can’t read Japanese…) like Street Fighter.

All in all, they look good, but I personally think the skirt was a weird choice, could’ve gone the boyshorts route with Chun-Li’s set and like I said earlier, Cammy’s is off considering her character. But on the models? They look fantastic.

I just want to see more stuff like this and going beyond just Japanese boutique stuff, I want to see Western markets take a shot at these things as well. It doesn’t have to be over-the-top and it doesn’t have to hit your over the head repeatedly with logos a’plenty on the clothes as if they’re trying to scream “WE’RE A POP CULTURE REFERENCE!!!” over and over again. I always go back to the example of Chrom’s swimsuit as it doesn’t look obvious that it’s meant to be from something, it looks like if anything, it’s boutique swimwear where the company REALLY likes their logo.

So when it comes to underwear for example, let’s try not to be too flashy. You can have Sailor Moon underwear without having a giant bow in the middle, you can have Batman underwear without a hundred logos on it, you can have Zelda underwear without having a giant triforce over the crotch. Let’s figure it out, folks! Because as soon as we do, there’s going to be a market ready for it, especially if it’s not ridiculously overpriced, as admittedly these Street Fighter sets are, priced at around $70 (Cammy) and $80 (Chun-Li) respectively. But then again, women’s underwear is stupidly expensive, so maybe that’s either the right price or just a little cheaper? I don’t know, you tell me, ladies!

So yeah, more of this please! I need some Mass Effect N7 boxers and some Overwatch Soldier 76 briefs. Get on it!

Summer Is A Great Excuse To Not Wear Pants

As the summer months roll in and the temperatures stay consistently hotter and hotter, one has to try and keep cool. Some are lucky enough to have really good air conditioning and can afford to abuse the hell out of it so they stay cool all summer long. Some are lucky and have a pool they can just hop into whenever they want to and quickly keep cool even on the hottest of days.

But in my case, I don’t currently have either of those things to help me stay cool, I’m at the mercy of the air coming into the house and the ceiling fan’s ability to at least blow a little bit of air that feels cool around me. So naturally you have to turn to ulterior methods to stay cool and thus came a tactic I’ve been wanting to try out for quite some time now.

I wrote an article back in November about how I was dying to just walk around the house without pants on, but I lived with a few friends so it wasn’t exactly the right place to be doing that. Now in my current spot, I’ve got most of the important stuff in my bedroom, so I can at least keep the bedroom door shut and do whatever I please. So that’s what I’m doing now, on most days, not even necessarily because it’s super hot out, pants are nowhere to be seen, I’m either in boxer-briefs or just briefs, whichever I feel like wearing at the time.

And I gotta tell ya, it really is such a liberating feeling to just walk around without pants on, it really is. It makes me giddy when I know my next place I’m hoping to move to before year’s end will be a basement apartment where I have a lot more freedom to move around like this. Because seriously, as silly as it might sound, I feel like I’m enjoying everything I do more, while I’m doing it without pants on. I’m serious, I feel better when it’s just a shirt and underwear on. It’s hard to explain, but perhaps my best guess would be that it’s a comfort thing, that choosing to take my pants off and staying like that brings a sense of confidence to myself. I’m not the best looking guy, but I know I don’t look terrible either. Couple that with my hopes to start really exercising at home once I have the space to do so again and believe me, there will definitely be some improvements to this pantsless person.

I think there’s multiple reasons as to why people end up deciding to go the pantsless route when they’re at home, some are even more comfortable doing it around friends and family, rather than just while they’re alone or with just their significant other who’s already used to seeing them without clothes on, let alone in their underwear. And I honestly believe that the biggest reason is simply because it’s comfortable, there are so many kinds of clothing that we wear that while it looks good when we’re out in public, it’s not the most comfortable thing to sit around in all day. For example, it doesn’t matter how cold it is outside, if I come in the house with jeans on, the first thing I’m doing is changing into my running shorts because they’re far more comfortable than jeans could ever be.

As I mentioned earlier, confidence ends up being a big factor in those who choose to go this route as well. Just walking around in your underwear, it brings a sense of self-worth, you get the thought in your head that you must look attractive while walking around in your bare essentials and thus you generate a little more happiness and confidence in yourself. I’m not kidding you when I tell you that the first time I walked around my room in my underwear, I smiled. I honestly felt better about myself almost immediately after taking my pants off, because in my head I thought that because I felt comfortable with doing this, regardless of whether or not anyone would see me like this, the fact I was doing it, it let me know that I’m not an ugly piece of garbage, in my head I felt like a million bucks, like I could take on the world.

With no pants on.

So if you’re living in a place where you could get away with doing so, try it out, take those bothersome pants, shorts, skirts off and let your legs breathe for the first time in a while. It’s a liberating feeling that can give you the confidence you need to take that next step in improving yourself, because if you can be comfortable seeing yourself half-naked the majority of time at home, that comfort will extend out in your daily life when you’re covered up, because you won’t be afraid or nervous about what other people think of you. If you love your own body, that aura will pass onto others.

For me, that change in my confidence didn’t start recently when I began to walk around without pants on, that started when I made the choice to start wearing briefs again. It had a similar feeling to it, as I looked at myself in the mirror and didn’t hate how I looked and that slowly translated into me liking how I looked more and more and starting to pay more attention to how I look, like how my hair is, what clothes I wear and it translated into my confidence going through the roof. Now I’m more open to things, I don’t worry so much about how I look, how I’m posed, how my personality comes off, all of those things.

Sometimes you don’t need a major overhaul to change everything. Sometimes it’s something small that kickstarts everything into gear. For me, a shorter pair of underwear did it and now I’ve added onto that up-trend in my confidence by now choosing not to wear pants when I can do that.

The next step’s a bit dodgy though. Gonna need a house to myself and blinds on the windows if I’m going to suddenly start walking around the house butt naked…

Why Wear Pants? An Age Old Question

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I’m currently living in a house with two roommates. We’re all friends from high school and it’s been a blast and a real learning experience for me, as it was my first time living away from my parents. Now the plan for me is that by the spring, I’ll be in my own apartment with my girlfriend of nine years (this Saturday!) and I am so excited for this.

There is however something small that I’m also looking forward to when I move into my own apartment. It doesn’t seem like much, but to me this one little thing is something I’ve been kind of eager to be able to do.

What is that one thing, you may ask? Being able to walk around my home without pants on.

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from Heavy Rain

It’s not something I’ve really put too much thought into however until the past couple years. Since moving out, not having parents to judge every single purchase I make, I was able to try a lot of new things without anyone questioning me. Relating to the topic though, it was really my re-discovery of briefs and how fucking comfortable they are, that really kickstarted this innate desire to kick the habit of wearing pants…literally…like kicking my pants off the second I walk in the door.

I think it also helps with me being a lot more comfortable with myself as well. Certainly in the past three years of living on my own, having the opportunity to wear clothes I never would’ve worn before, getting my hair done differently than I have before, little things like that, they’ve opened the door for me to actually care a little more about how I look and actually take a legitimate interest in how I look.

But enough about me (for now), let’s actually sit down and talk about the actual act of not wearing pants, why people do it, why people don’t do it.

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Generally speaking, the majority of people who do walk around in their own homes with no pants on, no shirt on, hell maybe no clothes on at all, they don’t exactly advertise it. So it’s really difficult to get an idea of how many people choose to go without pants in the comfort of their own home. But I think it’s fair to say the percentage is low, like I think the maximum is 10% and even then I think I’m being generous. Though I think there’s a difference in the numbers if you ask “Do you walk around your house with no pants on?” and then follow it up with “If you could walk around your house with no pants on, would you?”.

We have to keep in mind that the majority of people don’t live alone, or don’t just live with a significant other who would be more than happy to see their man or woman sans pants. When we’re curious as teenagers in high school, we’re living at home with our parents, not the kind of people who’d be okay with you walking around in your boxers. In college, a lot of us our living with a roommate or several and unless you get some really casual roommates, someone’ll give you a weird look if you’re walking around in your panties. And then fast forward to when we’re all older and have kids, even if they’re too young to really understand anything, I imagine the vast majority of parents feeling like it’s also their responsibility to keep up a great image for their kids and being no pants casual doesn’t fit that role.

So realistically that leaves the majority of your regular, average folks somewhere in your 20s, depending on your college/university life and how soon you want to start a family. That’s the average person’s timeline for no pants. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule, some people choose to have children, so that’s one factor scratched off the list. Some live alone, that really scratches a lot of options off the list. There’s the odd case where your roommates (and if things get really crazy, your parents…but I don’t know how I’d feel about that…) are comfortable with whatever, so there’s another scratch off the list. But otherwise, unless you have zero fucks to give and you choose to do it in spite of whatever’s around you, your time to enjoy the most comfortable setup at home is limited.

from Sexfriend (VN)
from Sexfriend (VN)

Now I’ve had one opportunity to actually enjoy the freedom of living without the shackles of pants. There was a weekend where my roommates were gone, so I jumped at the chance. There are hours here and there that I could consistently use, but I’m not a gambler so unless there’s a guarantee, I ain’t trying shit! But being able to actually do this once, I’ve got to tell you…it’s so (as Kou from New Game! says) liberating to just walk around the house, cook food, play video games and do all the things I normally do, just without pants on.

A big part of it really, at least to me, is just the fact that wearing pants, shorts, whatever you wear over top of your underwear, depending on how long your pants are, how tight they are, how thick the fabric is, whatever you’re wearing, it gets in the way, to varying degrees. You’re just not as mobile in baggy pants, jeans, cargo shorts, etc. It’s why yoga pants are so form-fitting, if they were baggy, you’d have a harder time moving around, especially in some of the insane poses you do in yoga. So by not wearing pants, you’re completely cutting out that possibility. Especially the average girl, where there’s not even a little bit of leg being covered, unless you’re wearing boyshorts.

I had two days and I ended up doing one day in briefs, one day in boxer-briefs, only those two because I can’t stand boxers, I find them too long and too loose. I definitely found myself enjoying briefs more because it was less fabric clinging to me, though there might just be a little bias there because I’m currently on a roll with briefs since I started to wear them again. But yeah, that’s generally how I feel about the advantages of no pants. It’s more comfortable, cause there’s less clinging to you and it’s certainly liberating. There’s something just really cool to me about being able to spend time without wearing an article of clothing that unless you’re at a beach, pool or a changeroom, you’d get a weird look from the general public.

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On the other hand, of course there are reasons why people would choose not to when they have the opportunity to do so. As I’ve said in previous articles about how we as a general public treat underwear, most of us view the article of clothing as something private, something only yourself and your significant other should see you in. Now yes, if you’re in the privacy of your own home, that should be the case, but there’s other things that people take into mind. Maybe they’ll pass by a window and someone will see, maybe a family member or friend will suddenly open your front door without knocking (because there are people who will do that) and catch you in a moment of liberating freedom. There’s always a chance someone could see, but the likelihood is extremely low.

I think honestly the biggest reason is simply that people are just too uncomfortable with the idea of ever not wearing pants or shorts. It’s so ingrained into our heads from our earliest memories that the only time you should ever just be in your underwear is when you’re in bed, covered by a blanket. There might be moments where it’s okay for people to see you in your underwear, like when you’re changing in a changeroom, but generally speaking the only place you’re taught is 100% okay to have no pants on is in your bed.

© MeUndies.com
© MeUndies.com

It’s such a small thing, but to me, I cannot wait for the chance to get home from a long ass day at work and just kick off my pants and chill on the couch in a t-shirt and whatever underwear I decide to wear at that moment. It’s wonderfully comfortable, it’s so liberating and honestly, I just love the idea of not giving a fuck. Sometimes that’s all it takes.

Because…

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Once Again, The Internet Proves How Childish They Are (Calvin Klein)

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So as the Internet collective tends to do, something that shouldn’t have been a big deal has become a headline story, proving for the umpteenth time that when you put on your anonymity hat, you check your logic and common fucking sense at the door.

This Calvin Klein advertisement features 22 year-old model Klara Kristin with the camera positioned underneath her to show off her underwear underneath. Naturally, the Internet freaked out, the SJW alarm went off and the overreactions began.

Now at face value, I can semi-understand one thing and that’s the angle of the shot. It is an upskirt which honestly isn’t a sight that the majority of the human population will ever experience, in fact probably 99% of the population will never see a woman from that angle. Who does? Perverts of course, the people I will never defend for going such a heinous route in life.

But at the same time, I doubt the angle is meant to imply it’s someone’s bird’s-eye view of them creeping on a girl to see her panties. After all, the advertisement is for underwear, the intent in clearly there. Could they have gone with a different angle? Absolutely. They could’ve gone with a top that hangs down a little less, so you could see about half her underwear, something to that extent. But honestly, the angle doesn’t bother me (as it shouldn’t), however I do understand the angle itself is not exactly associated with something positive.

HOWEVER! What I will not tolerate is the completely idiotic overreaction of the Internet when calling this advertisement out for supporting “pedophilia” and other absolutely heinous acts. Do you understand now why I bolded the text with Klara’s age? SHE’S 22 YEARS OLD, NOT 12! How fucking stupid do you have to be to look at this photograph and think “Yep, he’s looking up the skirt of a child!”, are you that fucking far gone?!

If that’s pedophilia to you, then why aren’t you getting upset with Sears, Walmart, Target, any retail store that has catalogues and advertisements of underage girls in bikinis or even their underwear? Why isn’t that an issue to you? You can’t just pick and choose what you want to get mad at! Either take it all in, or take none of it!

Where does anyone get the idea that this photograph is sick and disgusting? It was clearly consented upon by the model, otherwise she wouldn’t have done it. The dumbest comment is the last one in the cover picture. “Isn’t this kind of photography a crime?”, NO IT’S NOT UNLESS IT’S NOT CONSENTED BY THE INDIVIDUAL BEING PHOTOGRAPHED!!! If that was the case, wouldn’t all nude selfies be illegal? Hell, any pictures taken of a girl in her underwear, that must be illegal, right?

Holy fucking shit, Internet. Get your shit together, I’m getting sick of this bullshit!

The Tighty-Whities Stigma

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I mentioned this memory in my article about Swimwear vs Underwear, but that memory brought another issue to mind. For those who didn’t read the article, while talking about our society’s different comfort zones, particular with underwear, I talked about how especially during high school, the changeroom became an awkward place for some and certain clothes became a point of usage for bullies and people who just like to poke fun at anything and everything.

For me, this started in Grade 7, I would’ve been 12 at the time. I’m not sure why this never became a point of contention for people until the age of 12, but the entirety of my childhood up until that point, my underwear had always been briefs of various colours. But of course as many remember, we didn’t call them briefs back then, no we had to vilify them and call them something stupid and childish: Tighty-whities. So when that fateful day came around (it wasn’t even the first day of school that year…it just happened midway through), as usual I changed out of my jeans and into my gym shorts. But this time around, someone started laughing and pointed at me, making fun of me for wearing these “tighty-whities”.

I was already a prime bully target throughout my entire childhood. It was easy, I was skinny, somewhat shy and I was actually getting good grades, so of course bullies hated me and wanted to take their shots at me. So it didn’t surprise me at all that they had found something else to nail me on. But I didn’t understand this one at all. Sure, pretty much everyone else was now wearing boxers, but at one point or another we were all wearing briefs, so why is it me taking the hit?

And this memory has sat with me forever since and now after posting that swimwear/underwear article that was mostly directed at what women wear, I think it’s time to talk about what men wear.

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Like how women’s underwear is portrayed as sexy, men’s underwear in advertising can be similar, albeit slightly different. Generally speaking, there’s two types of underwear modeling for women: the super sexy model and the “Sears” model. It’s either designed to be sexy as all hell or just normal, comfortable underwear, the sexiest models or while usually still pretty, more average-looking women. With men’s underwear modeling I find it’s two things as well, but very different. It’s either sexy, or non-existent. Almost every male who models underwear, no matter the type or design is a muscle-ridden handsome man. It’s funny to me how there are plenty of cases where in a catalogue you’ll see women modeling the majority of underwear being sold, but the majority of men’s underwear isn’t modeled at all, it’s just pictures of the product. So when it is modeled, it’s a very unrealistic body type of the average man.

Which brings me to briefs. As a guy who does enjoy wearing briefs (I’ll go further into my preferences later), it really pisses me off when companies make it seem like only two types of men should ever be wearing briefs. They’re either the super bodybuilder type of guys, or gay men. That’s it, you either have to be an athletic freak, or enjoy the occasional penis. So let’s look at it from a high school perspective. Taking this logic into play, to wear briefs and show them off in a high school boys’ changeroom, you’re either the asshole jock everyone (apparently) wants to be, or you’re hated/feared by everyone else because you’re gay, because again let’s be honest, that’s how a lot of boys would react. They’re either hateful towards gays or homophobic to the point they fear that the guy’s trying to flirt or come onto them by walking around in his underwear.

That is a super unhealthy point of view to have. It’s weird and a little sad to me that people do indeed make assumptions of people’s personality and sexuality just based on the clothes they wear. Just like some people think girls are slutty when they see they’re wearing a thong or G-string, it’s just as pathetic that some people will also look at a guy and just because he’s wearing a pair of briefs, he must be gay. I don’t see the correlation there, hell I’d see a guy wearing a thong and I wouldn’t immediately make that assumption, because maybe the guy just feels the most comfortable in that type of underwear.

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The whole homosexuality assumption is just ridiculous to me and basing someone’s sexuality on something as pointless as the underwear they wear is idiotic. Is it possible that the majority of guys who wear thongs are gay? Yes, it’s possible. But does that make every single guy who wears them gay or at the very least, bisexual? No, and it certainly doesn’t mean we should be making the assumption either. The same used to go for pink shirts, only gay or super flamboyant men wore pink we all used to say and think. Do we still believe that? No. Yet some of these assumptions still exist with other kinds of clothing.

We all seem to forget that different people of different races, cultures and sexualities wear the same kinds of clothes too. There are a ton of gay men who wear boxers just like “normal” guys do. So why can’t we assume there might be “normal” guys out there who wear thongs just like gay men? You can’t have it just one way or the other.

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It’s silly too because we associate the swimwear version of briefs far differently too. The classic Speedo, a staple of awkward swimwear to the general public. You still won’t see a lot of men wear this type of swimwear in public, but we see it in major televised events, you know…like the Olympics! A lot of swimmers wear the classic Speedo, again the swimwear equivalent of a pair of briefs. Yet do we openly talk about how gay these men are? Unless you’re an absolute fucking moron and a bigot, no we don’t. But like I said in the Swimwear vs Underwear article, we do look at swimwear far differently in public than we do with underwear, so we have to keep that in mind. But it doesn’t make it any more stupid that the exact same shape of clothing but in underwear form has a much different moniker attached to it.

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So to finish off this article, I thought I’d give my own personal feelings on underwear, specifically briefs. And what better way than to show you. Now I won’t post a picture of myself wearing these because of my own self-conscience not wanting to just throw pictures like that up online, but the pair of briefs from MeUndies (I should be getting paid for the number of times I’ve advertised this company since first buying from them..) you see above this paragraph is not only in my drawer, but I’m currently wearing it as I type this article. I’m not a well-toned muscle-ridden athletic freak, I’m 155 pounds soaking wet. And I’m also not a gay man, not bisexual either, not that I’m homophobic or anything of course either. But I wear briefs, and now have transferred my once 100% boxer-briefs underwear drawer into a 50/50 split because ever since trying them on again in the last couple years, I love them. They’re super comfortable (especially the MeUndies ones, they are super soft and comfy. Again, expecting my paycheck in the mail, guys!) and I feel like I have just a little more mobility and my skin can breathe a little more.

To me, when I look in the mirror and see myself in a pair of briefs, I don’t look at myself and think anything’s different or that I’m abnormal. I don’t look and think that my sexuality is changing, I’m certainly not wearing these now in attempt to entice anyone, I’m in a happy relationship with a girl for over 8 years now, so unfortunately all the gay men I’m supposedly trying to attract with my choices in underwear will have to get in line and take a number. The only thing I will admit is that seeing myself in the mirror as I am right now in a pair of briefs does make me want to improve how I look. Is that solely because of the underwear? Of course not, I’ve always wanted to improve my body, put on some muscle and get healthier. All wearing briefs has done is increase the drive to actually get off my lazy ass and accomplish these goals. Do I want to look like those over-muscled models? Absolutely not. But I want to look better and healthier and that should always be your goal, to look healthier. Better however, is always in the eye of the beholder, your better is different than mine.

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Just like it’s ridiculous to judge women based on what they wear, it shouldn’t be any different for men. While women are judged by more than just their bare essentials, while men aren’t judged as harshly, when it comes to underwear, men get chastised for their selections just as badly, at least I think so anyway. And it shouldn’t be like that, especially with underwear. I select my underwear not based on anyone’s judgment, I select them based on two things: Are they comfortable? Do they look good on me? That’s it. If they fit both criteria, I buy them. I don’t care what people think about my choices, because only two people in the entire world right now gets to see me in them: My girlfriend and myself. If I knowingly had to change in front of other guys, would I wear my boxer-briefs instead? It’s more likely for sure, I would think about it, but it also depends on if I know the people in question or not. I think I’d be far more likely to not give a shit and wear a pair of briefs if no one knew me. But honestly, if anyone made fun of me or gave me hell for what I wear, I’d tell ’em off. Because I really don’t care what people think about the choices I make in terms of not just underwear but any clothing I wear. I made the opposite choice in high school and I hate myself for doing so.

And honestly, if they weren’t so damn uncomfortable, I might have even worn a thong at some point in my life for a full day like a normal pair of underwear. I tried it once as a joke to myself, fully expecting to A, be uncomfortable and B, look stupid on me. And it did both, but A was a huge part of that. That shit’s uncomfortable, man!

Swimwear vs Underwear

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So I came across this image while surfing the Web and it got me thinking. This has been a thought that’s crossed my mind plenty of times over the course of my life, so what better opportunity than to look deeper into this and see what we can pull out of the question being asked through this image.

Essentially, the question here is why girls take issue and freak out when seen in their underwear, but not their swimwear, which a lot of the time is either equally revealing or sometimes even skimpier than their underwear.

from Gakusen Toshi Asterisk (The Asterisk War)
from Gakusen Toshi Asterisk (The Asterisk War)

If you’re an anime fan, you’ve definitely seen this a number of times. The classic scene, a guy accidentally walks in or falls into a room with a girl (or two or more) in various states of undress, but usually in nothing but their bare essentials, their bra and panties. They cover up, blush brightly and squeal, scream, yell, slap, punch, kick and everything in between. And then a few episodes later or sometimes in the same episode they’ll walk out to the pool or the beach in their sexy bikinis which are just as revealing if not more than the underwear they were seen in and will walk right up to the same guy who saw them nearly naked as if nothing is wrong.

If this was coming down to simple logic, absolutely this would be a weird logical process that women have. In my teens I can sympathize with this train of thought because I used to think like that as well. To take that side for a moment here, let’s look at what a person sees without analyzing anything:

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Generally speaking what do guys wear as underwear? Boxers, boxer-briefs and sometimes briefs. But one would assume that the average guy is wearing underwear that goes about a third to halfway or so to their knees. That also doesn’t change much when it comes to sleeping, some guys wear pajama pants as well, but as we’re conditioned to believe based on various forms of media, most guys sleep in their boxers and it’s a toss up between them being topless or not. When it comes to swimwear however, there’s a drastic change in length. How often in a public setting do you see guys wearing any sort of swimwear that isn’t at knee-length? Board shorts are the default for most guys, you just don’t see many men walking around your average beach in shorter swim shorts and especially not a speedo.

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But with women at first glance it’s a much different story. Obviously the basic underwear setup for girls are the traditional bra and panties, with varying lengths. Some bras give more cleavage and are shaped around a woman’s breasts, while some are more like tanktops cut just above the stomach. The same goes for underwear as some girls wear skimpier panties like thongs and G-strings, while others prefer boyshorts and boxers. When it comes to sleeping we’re generally conditioned to think that girls are a little more conservative when sleeping, usually wearing no bra but a t-shirt or tanktop covering up most of their upper half. The bottoms are randomized really, ranging from panties to boyshorts, to shorts, to pajama pants, it’s really dependant on the person. But when it comes to swimwear, it seems at first that there’s something weird going on. What’s the most common form of swimwear in girls? You guessed it, bikinis. Obviously some wear one-piece swimwear, some wear shorts or skirts as their bottoms, but generally speaking we picture the average girl wearing what really is like a swim version of the tradition bra and panties combination.

So really it should be no surprise to some that there are people out there who would look at this and wonder just what the deal is with girls when it comes to think situation. If a girl would take issue with being seen in their underwear, but the swimsuit they wear is even more revealing, of course some will just look at that as odd behaviour and dumb logic. But like everything else in life you can’t just judge a book by its cover.

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The thing you have to take into perspective immediately is that as a society we have different levels of acceptance in various places. It’s odd for sure, but it’s a thing that exists and varies from culture to culture, country to country. Sticking here in North America where my cultural knowledge actually exists (and mostly because I can see it with my own two eyes), it’s widely accepted for girls to wear a bikini in public places like pools and beaches. Over the years swimwear has gone away from the super old-school one-pieces that used to exist, hell can you imagine being a guy wearing a white/red striped one-piece swimsuit that goes from your ankles to your neck? Sheesh! In the present day, one would argue we’re at the point now that over half of girls wear bikinis when they’re swimming. So when the clothing is marketed as normal rather than eye candy, of course you’ll see more girls wear them and not think any differently about it.

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That’s another key here, what clothes are marketed as. Yes, swimwear is still marketed as making girls look sexy, but it’s also marketed as normal, everyday wear. Do you see marketing material for swimwear where it’s a bunch of guys and girls hanging out on the beach and the girls are wearing bikinis? Yes. Do you see marketing material where guys and girls are having a house party or something to that extent and the girls are wearing just their bra and panties? If you do, there’s not a whole lot of them. Generally speaking underwear is marketed in a couple of ways, they’re sexy apparel for enticing your significant other or they’re comfortable apparel for when you sleep, which if you’re not married or in a relationship where you share a bed with someone, it’s clothing you wear in private.

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And that’s the biggest reason for why swimwear and underwear are treated completely different in the minds of the majority of women. Only a select few in their entire life should ever see them in these sets of clothing. Now granted for some that number will be much higher than others, but it’s not because of the number of sexual/romantic partners they have though. Besides the classic slumber party cliché where several girls are giggling and telling stories while they’re all sitting there in their bare essentials, there are moments where we all come into situations where people we don’t know or barely know will see us in just our underwear, maybe even with nothing at all.

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The most common situation is one we all pretty much have to deal with during our teenage years especially, the changeroom. Is it something a lot of kids will deal with through elementary/middle school as well? Yes, but do we really think anything of it when we’re younger than say 10 or 11? Likely not. But in high school especially, there’s a little more to it than that. Speaking for experience, I went out of my way to buy boxers specifically for gym class, because pretty much all my underwear at that time were tighter-fitting boxer-briefs and I wasn’t comfortable wearing them and having 10-20 guys seeing me in them and I know I wasn’t the only one who thought that and I’m certain it wasn’t just guys who acted like this. It would not surprise me in the least that girls went out of their way to wear less revealing underwear when they would be changing in front of other girls. And some guys and girls go beyond that, opting to either wait until most of their classmates leave, or they change in a bathroom stall.

But for most it’s similar to wearing revealing swimwear at the beach, over time you get comfortable with the overall acceptance that in the boys’ or girls’ changeroom it’s okay to be seen in your underwear. And to make it lighter on everyone who’s worried about it, it’s not for a significant amount of time anyway, so it’s not like you’re having to stand their in your birthday suit for all to see. The same happens in an even more public place like changerooms at gyms and public pools. This gets ramped up further by the fact that the majority (if not all) of the people you’re changing with are people you don’t know. Now only speaking from memories as a child as I haven’t ever stepped foot in a gym changeroom and I haven’t been in the changeroom of a public pool or anything like that since before I was a teenager, there are certainly people both male and female (because I sometimes changed in the family changerooms when I was much younger) that had no issue either being naked or barely covered up around other strangers. So there are some places that people can somewhat accept to be seen naked or in their underwear in public.

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The most important thing we have to remember though, is simply that some people handle situations differently with others and that reflects on a number of factors, being what they wear whether it’s swimwear or underwear, where they will wear said clothes and the level of comfort they have either being seen in them or walking around in them. Some girls are very shy and don’t want to be seen in compromising positions so they will wear less revealing clothing and go out of their way to ensure no one sees them in something like their underwear. But there are also girls who are far more comfortable with their bodies for whatever reason, whether they’re more flirtatious and perverted, or quite frankly they’re just okay with people seeing them in little to no clothing because it’s not a problem for them. Some just operate with a “you can look but you can’t touch” attitude, because they can differentiate between someone staring at them from someone they allow to get close to them and actually touch what the fabric covers. It’s a matter of personal preference, it’s why some girls are okay with even walking around naked in more private settings but around strangers nonetheless. It’s the same kind of reasoning that some girls walk around their house in their underwear or even naked when the blinds or curtains aren’t blocking the outside view. Some are just more comfortable with themselves while others limit the public eye to just their body in a bikini, which goes back to the whole public acceptance thing.

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The fate of some who catch girls in various states of undress

So when you take all that into account, it shouldn’t be any surprise that presumably the majority of girls take offense to being seen in their underwear, but not their swimwear. It has a lot to do with cultural and societal acceptance, if it’s generally okay to everyone to wear a somewhat revealing bikini, then more girls than not will have no problem wearing one. But when it’s not as widely accepted for people, especially strangers to see you in your underwear, of course those same girls will freak out if someone catches them in their bra and panties, even if what they’re wearing is way less revealing than the bikini they were just changing out of.

So taking all this in, I’ll give my own personal feelings on how I’d react, granted I’m not a girl but it’s not like we’re far apart, feelings-wise. I wear board shorts as my swimwear, that’s my default, but it’s not like I’d have a problem upgrading to something shorter, in fact I own a pair of swim shorts where the fabric stops about maybe a third the way to my knees. But I’ve never worn it when at a pool or beach with friends. Why? Because I don’t want to deal with the risk people would look at me differently because I’m wearing something more revealing that what the norm is. But what about underwear? Well now that I don’t have to share changerooms with people anymore like I did in high school, I haven’t worn loose boxers in years, my wardrobe consists of half and half between boxer-briefs and briefs. They’re tighter-fitting which makes it more comfortable for me. But how would I react if someone saw me in just my underwear? I’d be covering up and freaking out a bit too.

So with that in mind, of course I can understand any girl who shares the same feelings on this issue. If I would have an issue being seen in my underwear by people I don’t want to see me in them, why would I have any problem with a girl having the same issue when she has more to cover up, generally will wear clothing more sexually enticing to those attracted to women, because let’s be honest men’s clothing is not often marketed sexually in any way, and girls are part of a gender that is looked at more sexually than any other gender. Women are certainly marketed as sexually appealing and in some bad cases, simply as sex objects so much more than men that it’s kind of disgusting.

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The only way to really balance everything out is pretty much a complete cultural and societal change which is pretty much impossible no matter where you go. You might see little changes here and there, but to completely overhaul an entire society’s views on something is just not an easy task to accomplish. It’s also much easier to remove past views and perceptions than it is to put old removed views back in. To make more sense of what I’m saying here, this is a little prediction I have. While I can’t set a timeline for when this change will slowly occur, I truly do believe that the likelihood of girls being more comfortable wearing just a bra (like a sports bra) or bikini top in public is far more possible to happen than for girls to start covering up when it comes to swimwear, such as wearing shorts instead of bikini bottoms. Like I said, it’s far easier for us to allow more than it is to deny. It’s why the likelihood of swimwear getting even more revealing as years go by is higher than the likelihood of swimwear going back to more conservative styles. I’m not saying it will be common place for girls to wear bikinis with bottoms that are more like thongs, but as years go by, I do think it’s more likely for some girls to do just that, rather than go back to a one-piece.

Lastly, will both men and women become more comfortable in their underwear over time? I think so, but it’s not like you’ll see any drastic changes. We have to remember that at least those who live in North America live in a culture that still has a few problems handling sexual content. It’s not taught very well in schools, we try to ban more sexual content than violence and especially in America, they’re more concerned with making sure kids don’t see a pair of naked titties than they are with them getting shot by crazy people with automatic assault rifles. Like I said, it’d require a massive culture shock and I seriously doubt that will happen anytime soon, likely not even in my lifetime if it ever does happen.

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So after over 2000 words pertaining to the question, why do girls have no problems wearing bikinis in public, but have a problem being seen in their equally revealing underwear? It’s simple: Because that’s how they feel! It’s none of your business why, it’s a choice they get to make as a human being. But if you want a few reasons why they possibly feel that way, it really has a lot to do with cultural norms and acceptance. But honestly, it could really just come down to you’re seeing them in a bikini around other people, while if you see them in their underwear, they’re alone and vulnerable. And when we associate underwear more sexually than swimwear, of course it will garner a different reaction over the other.

It’s not “women’s logic”, it’s human logic. Deal with it.